The “Cry it Out vs. No Cry Method” debate in the parenting world is heated, extensive, and passionate on both sides.
This “great debate” is one fuelled by extensive needs, of laments of “I used it and mine turned out fine,” “they are only small once, cuddle them while you can,” “three nights and it was over, best thing I ever did,” and “they just need you, co-sleeping fills that need and you both get sleep.”
If you strip the two arguments down, on both sides; you could argue that it is this:
Sleep and Presence vs. Closeness and Attunement
Yep, I don't give my son chores, teach him manners, or how to share. You probably think that I am a shocking mother who has no interest in raising my son to be a responsible, polite, and considerate. Well, I can't blame you for thinking that, however you would be...
Mothers Intuition Doesn't Come Easily I was thinking about this today, the whole "Mothers intuition" thing, you know the one. Where you are told that it is a "gut feeling," that a mother "just knows," it is all instinct, and more. When I was new mother I was told...
Life is more beautifully and deeply connected than we have ever fathomed, and I believe that parenting in key in revolutionising our understanding of ourselves, and the world we live in, so maybe it really is all about love; but love is just as much about how we love and connect with ourselves as it is about how we love and connect with others.